Behind every strong man is an even stronger woman.
I am a military girlfriend.I hold no formal recognition with the powers that be.I am at the bottom of the chain. I hold no Military ID card; I am not a "dependent" or parent.The man i love may face unspeakable dangers, and I am at the mercy of those who possess this recognition for news.I understand this and accept this.
I am a military girlfriend. I have promised to be here for him upon his return, no matter how long he is away. People may say I am insane for making such a commitment with no guarantees, but I hold onto our promises and have faith that he will come home safe to me. I know full well that my love for him fuels him in the worst of times.
I am a military girlfriend, there is no ring on my finger that symbolizes our commitment. I hope every day that he will be able to call because a simple 30-second phone call can bring the greatest spectrum of emotions…
smiling with tears in my eyes from so much joy and pain.
My relationship is based on a brief communication where “I love you and I’m okay” speaks more than volumes and gives me the strength to keep going.
I am a military girlfriend. I take no moment spent together for granted. I hold onto every touch, caress, kiss, every word. I have memorized the feel of his skin, his smell, the sound of his voice, and I play it over and over in my mind so that I will not forget. I cry myself to sleep some nights because missing him hurts so badly, but wake up the next morning, brush myself off, and start a new day.
I am a military girlfriend. The events of the next several months hold my life, my love, and my future in the balance. When you watch the news reports, you may turn away and go about your business relatively unaffected. When I watch news stories of the war, I do not see nameless soldiers a half a world away. I see individuals who will be forever changed by war. News of every casualty causes me physical pain and deep sadness, and tears beyond my control.
I am a military girlfriend, not a spouse or family member. When you say your prayers for the wives, mothers, and fathers, please don’t forget about me.
Source for the poem: military times
I first read this when he was a 1CL cadet in PMA. I thought I already knew everything I needed to
But everyday is surprisingly harder when he's away and in some days
when he is around it doesn't get any better than the previous.
There is so much that there is and I honestly totally salute all Army wives in the world.
I am reading Excellent Praiseworthy
Love is Patient
Love is Kind
Love is not Selfish
Love is Thoughtful
Love is not rude
I am not allowed to post this, but as a message to my soldier I cannot be any prouder of you.
Teary-eyed here Debs. You know how I admire the strength of your relationship. God Bless you both and I can't wait to sing for your wedding.
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Thank you Rizz. =)
Deleteun lang. (overwhelmed)
WOW!! I am so touched with your message!!!
ReplyDeleteNakaka-relate ako sayo though yung BF ko hindi Soldier.. He's actually a Marine Transportation student.. and he joined this scholarship in our school where in their first years they are not allowed to go out in school for 5 months. No contact with the family and friends. And also when they will reach 3rd year, they are sent out to abroad for 1 year...in the ship. hehe he's going to be a seaman. Wish you all the best to both of you :)
oh wow!
DeleteCongratulations on having a brave man who will sacrifice the distance to provide better for his family as a seaman. cool! Take good care of him.
Oo nga e. Its hard to be an Army GF, sometimes I wake up thinking why he's a soldier when he can take any jobs naman. Sadly, there so much going on in Mindanao. Apparently good soldiers take the front line for the government and for us. Please pray for peace! =)
Congratulations for having a BF who is serving our people in the frontlines!
ReplyDeleteI have some few advices so that you will have an enduring relationship:
a. Get a career of your own. You can help him sustain your family in the future, while at the same time, you can accomplish something that is rewarding both to you and your family.
b. Consistent communication. Letters, SMS, Internet (video chat). Everything seems available just to 'connect' nowadays. Be updated about each other's activities. Understand his limitations especially in matters pertaining to security.
c. Plan your future together.
d. Shower your man with endless love.
e. Accept reality that in many occasions, he is in a far-away assignment, hugging his rifle most of the time than you.
f. Don't be part of the Army chain of command by acting like a 'commissioned officer'who meddles in military affairs. This is a common offense committed by some military wives. (I hate to tell you the truth. The truth hurts. Perhaps, these ladies are ill-advised or too pampered by their hubbies)
g. Pray for him always.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Please tell the other military partners (GFs/wives) to continue making a difference by continuously supporting their loved ones who are in the noble profession of arms.
In one way or another, the country owes something from you too. Be proud!
Ranger C
www.rangercabunzky.blogspot.com
www.shootingaddicts.com
Thank you Rangercabunzky for your kind words and inspiration! Snappy!
DeleteI cried after reading the first line. (I haven't spoken to him in weeks because he is in a mission with heavy responsibility, the missing never goes away)
I am so proud of Paul in so many ways and so much more of his accomplishments and bravery. I'm also blessed to be in the military community meeting people like you who has always encouraged us. We will be getting married next year and all of this is appreciated. I am also going to use this blog to record our preparation.
Looking forward to reading more of your blogs! I adore your courage sir! Thank you for all your sacrifices that makes Filipino people sleep better at night!
Your soldier is lucky to have God by his side during difficult times, even luckier because God loves him so much he gave you as his girl to always pray for him. Keep the faith dear Debbie, for every journey and chapter of our lives, there is something called 'the end." Can be a start of a another journey, or the end of our longingness.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Kaye! All Glory to God I am in a good position to handle a relationship like this. I appreciate your support as my supervisor and friend.
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