How to wait for love

It's okay to wait for love. 

There is no instant recipe.

I talked to someone, a woman. She is distressed, unhappy and impatient. She said she can't find love.
And she can't find the perfect man. And if they were perfect for her they are either married or gay.

Typical you may say.

But lets think out of the box and realize what's wrong with these sentences.
(1) Its impatient. (2) Unkind (3) and a big fat DESPERATE.

Now of course I did not tell her that. I just listened. But the thing is today's world gives everything instantly.
Fly now pay later programs, Express Ways, Instant Noodles and 3-in-1 coffees. Maybe ladies now a days think that if I buy this, wear this and text "Hey, sexy" the man of their dreams will come in and sweep them away from their problems.

WRONG.

Okay I'm no expert. And admitedly I also had that hope. I had big expectations in College. I said to myself, the man I will marry is rich, intelligent and sweet.

Ha! Good thing God intervened and got a hold of me.
I was selfish. It was about me and the benefits I will get for loving such a man.
But love isn't like that.
Let's go back to the basics shall we. Love is kind, Love is Patient and does not boast.

Poetic maybe. But its true.
I am no expert. But here is what I learned all through out.

1. Love comes when you least expect it. Oh yeah, you've heard this a million times. But seriously when we are looking for love and we're desperate, we go to bars. But you won't find a decent guy there. Well, lucky if you had. But most of them are there also to have fun. So don't be so crazy to look for a short term affair, go somewhere you wanna go. Travel. And well maybe just maybe... there he is! taadaaa! You wanna study, study. You wanna volunteer for something, go! and you never know right.

2. God writes our love stories. So what if you feel like going to the bookstore today or dropping a hi message to you High School Crush. Why not sometimes God gives us the feeling of oppurtunity, we just had to know if its God's will or not. And how do we do that, we start the day right. We pray.

3. At the onset of the relationship Ladies might not be so into the relationship yet. And then the guy does this and that and we realize how kind hearted he is, how sweet and caring he is and how gwapo/good-looking he is. Our feelings develops over time so don't expect a high end love at first sight (though I agree this happened to some) still... if you're dating just enjoy getting along and have fun.

4. Be yourself.

5. See what you can do to the person. Or what you can offer. Don't demand. Bake him something, send him a sweet text for him to start the day right. ^ ^;

*Prayer: Father God, Change me....