How to become the best Girlfriend or Wife

"I feel like he doesn't make much time for me" 

"I want to get married and he doesn't have any plans"

"He is not sweet. I wish my boyfriend was as sweet and caring as my best friend's boyfriend"

He doesn't know what I want.

He always starts a fight when he disappoints me

and he missed to say he loves me back. 

          If you have ever felt this way. I did too! Probably your mom also had and so did your friends. 
Why is that? What is so difficult in realizing that hey I'm not so hard to please. I'm very very understanding.

#1. Accept that your boyfriend is not Superman. 

        He is human. And so are you.

It would be great to have the real Superman fly us around the world. But our boyfriend/husbands doesn't come with capes and underwear outside their pants. (Good thing!) When you just met him, he seems perfect yes. But time goes by and you realize he is so, and so and so. And so what! You love him and he comes with flaws and not capes. He cannot do everything for you. But he can love you enough, make you feel special and be the partner where God love passes through. 



As a woman, we grow up wanting to be queens and princesses. We want him to buy us every concert ticket of our rock band, give us flowers everytime and say the exact sentences we want from him when we ask something. But that is not going to happen because he is no madam auring who knows what we want when we say it. And who would do exactly how and what we want.

But the good thing about that is, HE SURPRISES YOU.

Pray for God's patient for you not to expect.
Pray for God to give you patience.And pray to God to help you let him know.
And pray that its the right time. 

Thinking about it, if I would know all reaction that I'd be getting from my fiance, life would be boring.
I let him do what he do best. He might not give me bouquets of flowers on most days, but everytime he goes to the mall he buys something for me. Before I was thinking that it seems wierd. He gets me a jacket, a shirt or something sporty. (Well, I'm really the girly type) But as soon as I accepted this, I realize that he thinks about me when he goes to buy himself something. My boyfriend is sweet because when there is something that he wants to get for me, even if its pricey, he makes time and effort for it.

We need to check if as women, our expectations are realistic. As long as they don't hit us, or do something that is a total violation of who we are. Lets list things to see their importance.

   
#2. If you think you are not hard to please.

        Then Appreciate.

Make a list of all the good things your boyfriend has. Some makes another list of the negative.
Why do we do that? If we love him, why do we focus on the negative. Its as if we are the local news channel. All we say are information about killings here and there, tragedies here and there. Where on the other parts of the country, some Filipino kid won noble prize (Happening Soon!)

Here comes the challenge: 1. Let him know of what he did great today or anything you appreciated from him. Boost his ego. Let him know he is a great boyfriend. Chances are, he finds this really enticing that he becomes sweeter than before without you asking. 

Let him know you are a girlfriend of value.
Not a mom who corrects and lets him know where he can improve.
We are the girlfriend/bride/fiance. 

Give him a good cheer! Hooraah!

#3. If you feel ugly.

        Make yourself beautiful.

Guys are scared when we ask this big question "Do you think I'm fat". Or days when you say, "Ang pangit ko today, and that zit!) 

A - If he agrees, he's dead.
B - If he doesn't agree, we say they're lying
C - He doesn't say anything, we say they don't care.

Let's try this, if you find it challenging - Be quiet, smile, smell good. Count from 1-10.
Then do something that makes you feel beautiful. 
Let him notice. :) 

#4. If he doesn't make time for you,

        make yourself worth the time.

Self explanatory. Lett's not be needy. Let's be fun to be with. Let him enjoy being around you.

#5. If he's a boyfriend who disappoints

        Be a friend.

First and foremost, unless he rapes you, practices domestic violence, hurts you or disrespects you and your family through his acts. He is not a bad boyfriend. Otherwise WHY ARE YOU *STILL* WITH HIM. 
Swim the ocean in your stilettos. 

Now, if he is a man you love. And he is good. Nothing big nothing too fancy is killing your mood. Be a friend. I like talking to my boyfriend. I love making him laugh. And I like it when he opens up and shares his problems. I feel trusted. My boyfriend is a quiet guy, but not when he is with me. He tells a lot of stories and even cracks jokes. He takes me on simple dates like early jogs in Baguio City surrounded by trees that filters sun rays. When he's quiet I like to be quiet too. I learned not to nag him. I give him time. 

Being a friend and a lover is great. :) The company we share is intimate. And it feels safe.

What's your ways on becoming the best girlfriend?