To do: Appreciating your Man

A friend of mine told me:

There is nothing I can say positively of my boyfriend.

Is that even normal? Being someone who you can't think of a positive thing to do. Wala akong nasabi.
Then another friend said, Then why are you still with him?

Ladies and Gents, every person has a positive. Do you agree. Lahat tayo. We may not be perfect.
But we are God's creation. ^ ^. We value positively.

But who am I to attack my friend or the boyfriend. I don't know the entire reason behind it.
But here are my controversial hypothesis. Which I have not told. My friend is confuse about the relationship
at the moment. Unsure of where it will go.

Please let us help my anonymous friend... Your comments will be read by her.

Hypothesis #1. Perfectionism

               Senator Miriam Defensor is one of my respected public servants. I remember watching
her Maalaala mo Kaya in ABS-CBN years ago. Her mom was so strict. If she didn't get an exam perfectly she kneels in rock salt for long hours. For every mistake she is punished. I feel for her. But the story had a good turn around, she became very successful.




                Girls, if you grew up with high expectations and excellence, I hope we don't police our boyfriends for every wrong they do. And we don't bring them to court when they say bad stuff. Or when they have values which are different from us.
                Let's try this, appreciate. Say something simple.

                                 *Ang ganda ng eyes mo. (When talking to him)
                                 * I had fun or Ng-enjoy ako. (After a nice date)
                                 * Thank you.

Hypothesis #2. Blind Spot

                 I call it blind spot because either you can't see it or you choose not to see it.

                 When you first knew him, you we're kilig (Can't sleep, can't eat, always smiling)
  then he started to court you or the least notice you. Then you became exclusive and the rest is
history. But then, years go by and we became complacent. Other people may see him as this hardworking young gentlemen. Or someone who cracks a funny joke, but who cares?! You don't at least.

If this happens, go get a check up.
Eye Check up - EO Optical commercial and ads blinking with gold and banners.

Let's have a reality check here. Nobody is perfect. And so are we. I have lots of flaws. I don't have porcelain skin, I have unruly hair sometimes and I can be a bit lazy. But at the end of the day, I don't have hairy legs, I have thick strong hair and I love to multi-task.

We have flaws and we have bad stuff. But that is okay.

Your boyfriend or husband is human. He has good stuff and bad stuff. But whats good, let's take notice.

Hypothesis #3: TIME (For space or to move-on)

                   Maybe just maybe, you are not meant to be together. Or you need some time off without him.
Let's sit down and talk a while. And let it go.

Work it out. Have some time off. Or Move on.

Whatever makes you happy you would know!

But at least we have the courtesy to say it. No further hearbreak of breaking the man down. :)

How about you, What do you think?